It may seem strange to resemble one to “Peggy” Agent Carter. For those who don’t know, she’s a fictional character within the Marvel universe. Steve Rogers, or otherwise known as Captain America, eventually falls in love with her after meeting during basic training when Rogers joins the US army. Miss Carter was known for winning in the face of adversity, successfully holding her own in a room full of men, and looking beyond one’s appearance, at least as much as a Hollywood character can. Let me preface this by saying she’s still a Hollywood character, complete with attributes that are either not realistic or downright stereotypical. I’m not attempting to say you are stereotypical or unrealistic, but I’m making a mere thoughtful comparison of the similar positive qualities you share with this very fictional character.
There’s a time in Roger’s life where he’s the victim–always being bullied for standing up for what is right, feeling inadequate to “protect” his country during the Second World War, or being ridiculed for being small and skinny. When he was selected to join the army for a secret project by, what seems to be, a wise doctor, he faced the same, yet more intense, the difficulty he did before joining the army. It’s worth noting that although Agent Carter didn’t show interest in Roger’s at the time, she did not ignore him like other women at the time.
Likewise, when I was considered less attractive, at least by societal standards, you didn’t ignore me. When I didn’t have a dollar to my name, you didn’t ignore me. As I’ve glowed-up, I’ve noticed the more shallow or superficial attention I never use to get, and I’ve become more grateful for you–the one that saw past my appearance.
When I didn’t have a dollar to my name, you didn’t ignore me.Andrew Crawford
After going through basic training, Rogers receives a special serum that makes him Captain America. Growing to be six feet tall with muscles everywhere, he was no longer a victim, no longer skinny, and no longer bullied. After this, Rogers received more attention from everyone–women included. That said, because he had the perspective of his former life, he knew the real value of a good woman–one that values him for what’s on the inside because the outside can change.
Similarly to how Rogers feels about Carter, I think about you. I’ve often struggled with the notion that no one truly loves me for me because it’s about the results I bring–in every context of life. If there’s one person that I think loves me for, at least most of me (yes, no one likes how I leave my socks around the house), it’s you.
After making his first save, Rogers begins working on the political side of the war with his newfound publicity. Aiming to help recruit more soldiers (and votes), he goes on a campaign trail. Eventually, he crosses the pond and meets Agent Carter again, and she encourages him to do something more impactful with his newly acquired talents. The encouragement she gives him reminds me of you. You’ve inspired me in all the right areas, even if it’s helping me not to do something. With Roger’s new motivation, he frees a significant number of men from Hydra (or Nazi) control.
As I think about my journey over the last decade, I remind myself of the little pushes I got from you along the way (sometimes they were pulls, admittenly). Sure, it’s been a lot of my ambition, discipline, and crit that has gotten me the moderate successes I have had. Still, I wouldn’t have had that much ambition, or that much discipline, or that much crit if you weren’t supporting me either directly or indirectly. You’ve been there for me all this time, either by showing me how attractive you find me or taking care of our beautiful children.
In the end, Roger’s wouldn’t have become the success he did without the support from Agent Carter. I don’t think I’d be where I am if I didn’t have the support I get from you. You’re my love, life partner, and otherwise companion of choice.
I love you. Happy Valentines Day.